There is no comparison.
Lately, I have been finding myself comparing my life to others’. I look at the car they drive and the time they seem to have. My brain wonders, “how did they get it? what do they do for living? Is your family wealthy? Why don’t I have that? I mean I totally can.” But I remind myself I don’t want to because my car is completely paid off and I don’t want another bill every month. So then that’s that’s I don’t.
it would be easy to just get any car I want. I mean I am financially stable. Yet, I feel like it’s not worth it to me realistically to have a kind of toy. In reality it will just feed my ego. Although one day, I will just not now. I feel like I have other expenses that I need to think about or other things I want to do that buying a new car or any luxury items will stop me from getting. For example, traveling is expensive and I don’t want to have to be paying a bill on top of that. I don’t want to work more right now or stress myself out more. I have a lot on my plate at the moment. I don’t know, two grand,or a grand ,or whatever my car payment would be every month. Plus the insurance, which I’m sure will be high just because of the type of car. You know, I unless I have the money and I feel right getting something like Balenciagas which I have and yes, they’re expensive but they were a gift to myself.
OK, I’m rambling on about a car - I know my time will come when I will allow myself to get it. I know some maybe struggling to have what they have or you know their life just looks different. Their priorities are different than mine and that’s OK. It’s just a thing that is fun and not a necessity. I am thankful to my dad for teaching me the lessons of being humble, taking care of my money, and to make sure I am not buying things just for my ego. Especially, if you can’t afford paying it off right away. Meaning you must make at least triple what a car is worth. That takes time and work.
Back to comparisons. There is no comparison to be made between my life and anyone else’s because we’re different people on different journeys.
Money may come in different ways for different people. Then there are people that create their own empires from scratch. There are so many scenarios on how we have the things that we have. Yet, it all ends up being on us to be able to sustain that lifestyle. I am fortunate to have grown up poor and not really recognizing it. When I was little my bedroom was my dad’s closet that’s where my mattress lied on the floor. But then my parents split, I ended up getting my own room. I then had a bed - an actual bed and I was so happy.
Now my family and I have thankfully been doing well and so with that hard work and just being smart about our choices financially - we’ve been financially stable. It’s taken many years to get to this point. People don’t recognize that because they just see what’s in front of their eyes at the moment and they don’t know the backstory behind peoples’ successes or how they have the lifestyles they have.
I am just very grateful, fortunate, and blessed to know - I will never go hungry or not have a roof over my head. So when I start to compare myself or get upset because I don’t have something that I just want I need to remind myself not compare. I can’t compare my success, my hard work, my journey overall to how this person with this nice car got to where they’re at in life. Our choices and our path in our life are simply different. Then I remember, what the hell am I complaining about? I am so fucking blessed. I am self aware and I have more meaningful priorities to fulfill. Not say I don’t love a beautiful car. Just it isn’t my priority right now.
